What Terry Dubrow and Heather Dubrow Have Said About Being LGBTQ Allies to Their “Rainbow of Kids”

A Hard Talk That Needs Happening

Parents often fear bringing up sex. Getting it wrong seems dangerous. Still, surgeon Terry Dubrow insists timing isn’t everything. Instead of planning it out, he favors casual moments – talks that unfold without warning. Actually, moments matter more than plans ever do. Most talks drift off course pretty fast. Yet saying what you mean helps – when confusion hits hardest. Honesty keeps pieces from scattering. Flawlessness never does that. Moving forward matters most, even hands tremble. Silence piles up slower than those stiff, empty seconds.

Terry Dubrow Shares Thoughts on Parenting

“Act like there are cameras around and that you’re going to be held accountable for the way you act,” the reality show vet recommended to fellow parents of LGBTQ+ youth when speaking to E! News last summer. “That immediately removes all of your preconceived douchiness you might have.” And then, quite simply, he continued: “Give your kids a supportive, loving environment. That’s the perfect place to start.”

Anywhere works, though regular tips might fail – then shift to the man from Botched. If that feels late, his wife Heather Dubrow stood beside him nearly three decades. Heather “used to say to me, not complaining, but just that it’s unusual that we’d have such a rainbow,” he remarked of their children: son Nick, 22, daughter Max, 19 (who came out as bisexual), Kat, 19 (who shared she’s gay), and Ace, 15 (who identifies as transgender). “And I said, ‘We were chosen for it. That’s what we’re supposed to do with our platform.'”

Changing Things Through Their Platform

“If we can change hearts and minds by showing how our version of a normal, supportive family can be, we’re in,” Terry explained to E!. “We try to be role models for these conversations… and we’re honored.” Still showing up, day after day, they link arms with groups such as The Trevor Project and GLAAD – not because everything looks flawless, but because being seen counts. Quiet persistence speaks louder.

Close to their kids, they make it look natural. Yet somehow, the care shows without strain. Nearby, always – though never too close. Just present.
Terry said: “You may have your biases and your preconceived notions, but it ain’t about you, it’s about them. “They live in a completely different world… we all know the right way to act with our kids.”

Home, for Heather’s kids, feels steady. A 2024 RHOC episode revealed they’ve only known kindness and encouragement there. Though aware others aren’t so lucky, their world stays grounded. She finds comfort in that balance. “The more accepting and supportive we are to them publicly… hopefully that sends the message out,” Terry added.

The Strength of Open Talk

Chats open wide matter most to Heather. Without force, but with soft nudges, she brings forth words from her kids, knowing listening holds more weight than any lecture spoken.
She shared the following with E! News: “I came from a family that was very 1950s and no one ever talked about anything”. Committed to breaking that pattern, she also said the following about created a home rooted in openness when she said: “I’m proud of them, I’m proud of me, and I’m proud of us as a family for the way we communicate.”

“As parents, it can be tempting to talk at our kids,” Heather acknowledged. “And the truth is, you learn a lot more by listening and it helps them more to let them speak.”
Out of stillness, truth slips free. Moments without noise hold weight. What matters appears when words stop. Quiet lets honesty rise. What really matters becomes clear when you watch how people behave. Love lives in what they do, again and again. Folks mean the world to Heather, she told E!, each one growing into someone remarkable in their own way. Pride shows when she talks about who they are turning out to be.