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If you are not having as much sex as you would like, it may not be because your partner is not interested. Rather, it could be that the two of you aren’t communicating well about sex. But it’s not just about what happens in bed: good communication can help improve all aspects of the relationship, especially when it comes to sex. There are many different aspects to good communication with your partner even when there is infidelity or you want to introduce new people into the relationship, but here are some basics that will improve all aspects of your relationship
Conversation is important
Communication is the basis of any relationship. The more you talk, the better you will get to know each other and the more comfortable you will feel with each other. In fact, communication is a two-way street; it is not just about talking, but also about listening and understanding each other’s needs and desires.
Talking about sex may feel awkward at first (especially if one of you has grown up in a culture where it is not discussed), but it is worth it in the long run. It will help to increase the closeness of the couple by building trust and mutual respect for each other’s bodies and needs…
Know your body and know yourself
When communicating with your partner, it is important that you know yourself and your body. If you don’t know what makes you feel good, how are you going to tell your partner? Knowing your likes and dislikes will help make the experience more enjoyable for both of you.
It’s also important that you both feel comfortable talking about sex. If there is something that makes you uncomfortable, either mentally or physically, you should not feel pressured to do it. It may take some time for some people, but once a person is comfortable with their own body and sexuality, it is easier for them to communicate these things to their partner as well.
Try new things together
- Try new things together. Whether it’s experimenting with new positions, locations, toys or sensations, or trying new words or fantasies, anything that makes you feel more comfortable and excited about sex can help boost your confidence as a couple.
- Take the pressure off by doing things at times that are convenient for both of you. You may want to avoid rushing home from work to have sex before bed; but if your partner has been looking forward to sex all day, go ahead and enjoy the spontaneity!
Schedule sex, or at least schedule time to talk about sex.
It’s easier to enjoy sex when you have it on the calendar. Schedule time for sex, or at least schedule time to talk about sex.
This doesn’t mean you have to plan a romantic night in bed every night, but if you know that Wednesday nights are your “sex nights,” then it will be easier to put aside any other plans and focus on each other.
Schedule a time to discuss your sexual needs, desires and health concerns with each other as well. This is especially important if one or both partners have diseases such as diabetes or hypertension, which can affect the body’s sexual response (and therefore frequency).
Ask yourself if you feel jealous or insecure.
- Ask yourself if you feel jealous or insecure.
- Jealousy is a common feeling in relationships, but it can lead to insecurity and mistrust if not handled properly. If feelings of jealousy arise frequently, consider seeking help from a counsellor or therapist to better explore them with your partner.
- Jealousy can also lead to an unhealthy relationship when it is used as an excuse for controlling behaviour or to limit communication between partners. This means that jealousy should be discussed openly between both partners rather than hidden behind walls of silence; the latter will only make both people feel worse about themselves and their relationships in general.
Make a list of things you like in bed or (and…) things you want to try, and share it with your partner.
- Make a list of things you like in bed or want to try, and share it with your partner.
- Don’t feel ashamed. It’s normal to have different sexual desires than your partner – that’s part of what makes relationships exciting!
- Don’t feel pressured to do something on the list if you don’t find it attractive. Violating your trust can make sex seem less exciting, although having open communication about sex is the best way for partners to navigate their own boundaries and explore new things together. If something sounds good, but not right now, tell them why (maybe later this month, when work is less stressful) so they know where your partner stands on it.
Good communication helps to maintain a healthier and happier sex life.
Communication is the key to healthy sex life. When you and your partner communicate well, it is easier for both of you to be honest about what you like and don’t like in bed. This allows you to make changes that improve the experience for both of you.
Have a good conversation with your partner today.
Conclusion
I hope this article has helped you see how communication is key to a healthy sex life, and that it can be a fun and positive thing for couples. Remember that communication is not only about determining the kind of sex you want or need, but also about telling your partner what feels good and what doesn’t. This is important, not only because it ensures that you both get as much pleasure as possible in bed, but also because it helps build intimacy by allowing you to share who you are with each other on an emotional level.